So many of these stories seem like a repetition of my own with different timelines. She was always giving excuses about being tired, it’s too late, too early, headache, kids will wake up, the neighbors will hear, just not connecting, etc, etc. I always accepted her excuses because I was in love and wanted to understand her. Last year she made it perfectly clear that she didn’t want to have sex with me anymore and if I was looking for it, it was just not going to happen. I tried for a year to rebuild our relationship. We had all professional resources available to us. All along she was very clear she just didn’t want to or had the intention of getting back on the relationship.

We’re in the middle of separation this year. It took a year for me to accept that the person I thought I married was just not real. In her eyes, I’m just a mistake she doesn’t want to repeat. (more…)